Topic Tuesday The Fourth Trimester
I’ve decided I want to start a new section to my blog. I want to expand my niche from parenting whilst disabled too parenting in general, including all the yucky hard parts. As some of my readers have seen I’ve started a Topic Tuesday thread on my Instagram @mumma_to_abel_and_eli
This week’s Topic is, The Fourth Trimester.
A scary, emotional roller coaster that is the three months after birth. The roller coaster never really stops though.
So, let’s start with what is the fourth trimester.
The fourth trimester as said above is the first three months after birth. You have a new-born child that has left their comfort bubble. For nine whole months your baby was kept warm and safe inside a womb protected by amniotic fluid, constantly fed by their umbilical cord. Suddenly, they are learning to space their feeds, regulate their own body temperature and just get use to the new surroundings. Which to a new-born is huge and scary and naturally all they can do is cry.
What can you expect from your new-born?
Not much really, they are learning constantly. You can expect fussiness and crying. You have to learn your baby’s cues, I learnt with my eldest when he scrunched up his hand into a fist, he was hungry (Mum win) They will test out their voice, unfortunately not by talking but screaming. Your new-born squish also might only want to sleep on you, que exhaustion and worry.
Let’s Talk about you. The mums, dads, nans, grandads and careers.
Hi, welcome to the fourth trimester, warning it may be hell.
Many women down after giving birth, it is normal. Feeling tearful (I cried at an andrex advert) and anxious in the first few weeks is considered normal and is often referred to as Baby Blues.
I’m not going to try and sugar coat it, hey you may get a perfect baby that sleeps and settles in smoothly but that’s not always the case. The fourth trimester is scary, stressful, frustrating and just overall exhausting. But there are things that can help in the fourth trimester
1. Mimic your new-borns first ever home, you can do this by swaddling or baby wearing. I baby wore both my boys and it really was a life saver.
2. If you are offered help take it. Reach out and grab it with both hands, even if you’re not offered ask for it. Even if it’s just 10 minutes so you can go and have a shower. Having a shower always made me at least look human.
3. Seek emotional support, you will have so many emotions, feelings and hormones coursing through those veins. Postnatal depression is a very real thing, 1 in every 10 women within a year of giving birth are affected. Yes, it can affect partners as well.
4. Last but not least slow down and take it all in, this time will go so quickly. Take it in, watch your baby sleeping. Have all the cuddles, you can’t spoil a baby. The washing, laundry, cleaning will still be there. Making memories is more important that disinfecting the kitchen side for the 10th time that day.